Savvy Toddler Mom

Alright, so the career crisis is almost over, my hideous cold (or whatever secondary infection I got) is being attacked by wonderful antibiotics, and it’s almost August.  Ack!  Must be time to get back on the blog wagon.

This last week has been kind of a blur.  Full of spreadsheets and coughing, pioneers and bed wetting (the last was the toot, not me). 

Seriously, did we actually have a holiday last week?  If it wasn’t for the fireworks I would have missed it completely, I was so sick.  SavvyDad took the toot to the Days of ‘47 Parade and had a great time.  I went to the Instacare.

(If you are wondering what this Utah state holiday is all about, check out my more appropriate post from last year.)

But about the bed wetting… ugh.  So, the toot is practically potty trained.  He did it almost completely by himself in a few weeks’ time.  However, he is still a little hit-and-miss overnight.  Does anyone have any suggestions for that?  The last two nights he’s woken up crying because he wet the bed.  Not only is it upsetting to him, SavvyDad and I are losing (more) sleep and I’ve been having to do a lot of laundry.  If this keeps up, I think I’ll need to make a bigger investment in sheets and blankets.

I don’t want to just put him in a pull-up, though.  He wants to wear his underwear and he says he wants to try to keep them dry.  I don’t want to force training wheels on him if he doesn’t want them.  Any ideas?

Along these lines, have I mentioned how much I love my washing machine?  Well, I do.  Last August we got a front-loading LG washing machine and I have been having a love affair with it ever since.  It’s amazing.  Not only do our clothes get cleaner, but it’s HUGE (think: 1 1/2 times as many clothes per load as our old one), uses less detergent (high-efficiency only!), less water, and less energy (qualifies for energy rebates!), and is really fun to use.  No, really.  It’s fun to fill up the little drawer for the detergent, fabric softener, bleach, etc. and the toot and I like to watch the clothes swirl around after we turn it on.  My favorite perk (aside from all the above) is the cute chiming sounds it makes when you push the buttons and when it finishes the cycle.  It’s adorable.  Happiness in laundry.

I just put three twin-sized blankets in to wash at the same time.  It’s awesome.

I wrote the following post yesterday and thought that I had lost it during a computer blip.  I think I lost the last couple of paragraphs, but today I will take what I can get.

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I’m trying to get some work in this morning before going to our park play group, but I keep getting shot by Buzz Lightyear!  We have been having a Toy Story 2 fest at our house the last couple of days.  It’s pretty funny.

We just got back from a few days in Steamboat Springs, CO.  What a beautiful place!  I will post some pics this afternoon.  We went with SavvyDad’s parents, siblings, and families.  Mass chaos, really.  We met my SIL and her family there - it was SO good to see them.

Just got off the phone with ChasingToddlerMom a bit ago… she is at the hospital, all hooked up to pitocin.  So exciting!  She’s already dilated to 4cm, so I told her I’m guessing her little guy will be here by 3pm.  We shall see.

I have got a million-bazillion things to do for work today so, I am blogging.  Yeah, total procrastination.  Yikes.

We had a pretty good weekend!  Lots of rest — got some yard work done.  The toot had his summer tumbling program for which the grandparents came out (it was pretty funny).  We went to see Indiana Jones yesterday (fun, but not amazing).  My very favorite was having the toot sleep in yesterday (until 9am!) and then having a lazy, lazy morning with SavvyDad and our littly boy.  SO nice.  Oh - Saturday was right up there, too, when SavvyDad got up with the toot and let ME sleep in, then make aebleshievers (oh, I so spelled that wrong), Danish (Swedish?) pancakes that I LOVE.  He is the BEST!  Thanks again, sweetie.

Alright, back to the salt mines for me.  I’ll keep you posted on CTM.

So, I had another ultrasound yesterday — everything was great!  Those little guys were wiggling and moving… so wonderful to see!  They are measuring right on target; even a little ahead.  So, as far as we know, everything is as it should be.

Huge sigh of relief.

I get so wound up going in for an ultrasound.  I’m just terrified to find bad news waiting for me.  Poor SavvyDad doesn’t really know what to do with me.  He knows that he can’t very well talk me down when I get like that.  Oh, well.  One day at a time.

Over the weekend I did my first heparin shot on my own!  SavvyDad has been doing them for me, but I finally got up the nerve to actually poke myself and I am now empowered.  SavvyDad still assists with getting the syringe ready, etc., but I can do it to myself now.  Hurrah!  One hurdle at a time.

I wasn’t feeling great last night and took a phenegran for nausea.  It was about 11:00pm, and I am SO groggy today.  Having such a hard time waking up!  That drug is a miracle, though.  I would much rather be sleepy that nauseated.

CTM went for her check-up yesterday and her doctor scheduled her for induction on Tuesday, if she doesn’t go into labor before then!  Yay!  We’ll have that little guy here in a week, one way or the other.  I am so excited!

Today does bring with it some sadness… today my little Elizabeth would have had her first birthday.  I miss her so much.  I can just imagine what she would have looked like and how we would be celebrating today.  I can’t wait until the day when I can finally meet her, put my arms around her and hold her tight.

I am so glad that today finds me in such hopeful circumstances.  I have a wonderful, sweet little boy and two new babies on the way.  I can look to the future and be positive.

I remember going in for a two-week check-up after Elizabeth died and waiting in the examining room.  There was a mirror just across from where I was sitting.  I looked at myself in the mirror for a while as I waited for the doctor.  I noticed how old I looked… how tired and worn and beaten down with sorrow and a weary body.  I didn’t like what I saw.  In that moment, I decided that I was going to be a survivor.  I was going to pick myself up, pull myself back together, and keep going.  I have often thought of that moment.  I remember exactly what I was wearing and how my hair was that day.  I remember the conviction I felt to not be that person that I saw in my reflection.  I am happy to say that I haven’t been that person.  I am a survivor.

So even as I mourn some more today, I am grateful that I have been given the strength to overcome.  I am grateful for my sweet husband, without whom I would not be able to cope.  I am grateful for my adorable little toot and for all the things I have learned by being his mom.  He is the light of my life.  I am grateful for these two little babies growing inside me and I have all the hope in the world that they will be able to join our family healthy and whole.  One day at a time.

Here’s wishing all of you moms out there a happy Mother’s Day.  I hope all your children and/or husbands made you breakfast and gave you thoughtful gifts.  And, if not, at least maybe they did the dishes or let you take a nap.

It’s been a big weekend for us… we chose this weekend to announce our big news.  We are expecting.  Again. 

AND… (are you sitting down?) Not only am I pregnant, but I am pregnant with TWINS.  Yes, two babies.  Surprised?  Guess how we felt.  Wow.  Since at this point most people ask if we were on Clomid or other fertility drug or if we had in vitro, etc… the answer is no, nothing.  It’s either an absolute freak of nature or heredity.  I’m not really sure which is coming in to play more.  At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter.  I’m having twins.

Well… I HOPE I’m going to have twins, at least.  As many of you know, I have had four miscarriages — two in the second trimester.  I am now 10 weeks along, so we have another month until the really scary part (since it’s all a scary part).  I’m due December 9th, but since twins usually come a month early, we are looking at the beginning of November.

As many of you also know, the best idea the doctors have is that I’m having some sort of weird blood clotting issue that they can’t identify.  So… with all the fun of being pregnant, EXTREMELY tired (try, tired-squared), morning sickness, and not being able to breathe, I also get to have twice-daily shots of heparin that my sweet husband injects. SavvyDad has been amazing about giving me the shots since I am just not up to doing it myself yet.  It’s been almost a month now, and at least I’ve stopped hyperventilating when he gets out the syringes.

Let’s see… what else?  You can imagine why I’ve had trouble blogging lately — so much on my mind that I wasn’t ready to share yet.  It’s been such a rollercoaster.  We are hopeful (of course) that everything will go well, but are strangely detached to the point that I think other people think we are unfeeling or something.  So many people that I’ve shared our news with have screamed, shrieked, and cried (including my mother)… and yet we haven’t.  Not yet.

Anyway, that’s my big Mother’s Day news.  SO great to have it out in the open!  I have no idea what the next year holds for my family and me.  I know it’s going to be hard one way or the other.  I’m just hoping that the hard parts will be all to do with too many bottles to make, diapers to change, and not enough sleep because of it.  I will do it with a smile on my face.

Busy, busy… I know I haven’t posted in a while.  It just gets to be a last priority when everything else is going haywire!

I picked up a new client a few weeks ago and started serious work for them on May 1st.  It has been a blast, but very time consuming.  I’ve hired a part-time nanny (I’m sharing with CTM) to make sure the toot doesn’t spend my work time parked in front of the TV.  Man, can it be hard to find good nannies.

I had my sister nanny for me last summer — it was the best!  She loves the toot, the toot loves her.  Alas, she had to go back to college when the summer was over.  I asked if she wanted to work for me again this year, but she declined.

I love having a part-time nanny… it means that I can work when it’s work time and I know the toot is getting attention and interacting with someone (and maybe even learning things he wouldn’t learn from me!)… and then when work time is over, it’s mom-time and I can relax and not feel guilty that I’m not working! 

So, that’s pretty much my life these days… working, having some serious mom-time when I’m not working, and enjoying the fact that spring has FINALLY sprung!  Although, of the 24 bulbs I worked so hard to plant earlier this spring, only five have started to grow.  Is that normal?  I’m wondering if, in my haste, I planted some down too deep and they can’t find their way out.  Who knows.

I’m looking forward to Mother’s Day this weekend.  I’m having my family over for lunch on Sunday — a bit different for us.  SavvyDad has been asking me what I want as a gift and I honestly have no idea.  The only things that spring to mind are not things you can buy… sleeping in? no whining from the toot? no cooking for a week? (I guess you could buy that…)  Any other ideas?  What do you want for Mother’s Day?

ChasingToddlerMom asked SavvyDad for some advice on buying a camera fast enough to catch our little ones in action.  I thought you all would be interested in his response…

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STM told me you’re looking for a new camera. Click here for a side-by-side of the cameras you mentioned.

Given this comment: “One of my very highest priorities is to be able to take a decent picture at a quick shutter speed…” it follows that more important even than the camera body (since all 4 that you mention can operate at ~1/4000s max shutter speeds) is the lens. The lens will determine how fast light can get into the camera.

A cheap lens won’t let enough light in during a 1/4000s shot to get a proper exposure. The camera, anticipating this, will slow down the shutter speed to allow more light in (for correct exposure), but gives your subject time to move while the shutter is open.

Here’s my order of preference of the cameras you suggested:

1) Nikon D60 - allows unlimited continuous (’rapidfire’) shots, great variety of available lenses

2) Canon Rebel XTi - plastic body feels iffy, but Canon also has nice lenses available

3) Sony A200 - Sony is new to the DSLR market. This is their second gen camera

4) Sony A100 - Their first DSLR. You know how when Windows XP first came out it wasn’t too stable? I think the same applies here. Sony’s big selling point is that ‘only their camera body’ has Image Stabilization - which is true, but only ’cause the other cameras put stabilization in the lenses.

Here’s the catch:

1) All 4 of those cameras come with equivalent kit lenses (18-55mm, f/3.5-f/5.6) Not especially great, but adequate.

2) You can tell a good lens by the f-number. An f/2.8 is a nice lens, an f/5.6 isn’t. This number corresponds with the max opening the shutter can have - and the more open the shutter, the more light can get in - this makes for quicker exposures. Nice lenses are “fast.”

3) Fast lenses are expensive (for example: Nikon 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 is included, but the Nikon 17-55mm f/2.8 is $1200).

4) They include mediocre kit lenses with the camera so you’ll go by their nicer ones. And only Nikon lenses fit on Nikons, only Canon lenses fit on Canons, etc.

Here’s the conclusion:

1) SLRs are flexible, but it requires some know-how and some $$ do take advantage of it.

2) You can get fast cameras without, necessarily, an SLR, but be sure and look for that f/#. I suggest www.dpreview.com/ as a resource.

3) Once you settle on a couple of models, go to a camera store and hold them and try them. This is critical.

4) Pay attention to startup times and to shutter lag - the time from pressing the button to hearing the click. Shutter lag is death. Don’t by a camera that has shutter lag and don’t buy a camera that starts up slowly.

Hope this helps. Let me know if you have further questions. I love talking about this stuff.

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If you have camera questions for SavvyDad, please email him at the address on the right side bar.

Happy May Day!

Every night as I tuck the toot in, I ask him what song he wants me to sing to him.  And every night, the answer is the same: “Jingle Bells.” 

Ever since last Christmas, this kid LOVES Jingle Bells.  If he randomly asks for something else, I know he’s not serious about going to sleep.

While I sing to him, I stroke his hair — he closes his eyes and snuggles in to go to sleep.  It’s adorable.

It got up to 80 degrees this week… and I’m still singing Jingle Bells daily.  I really don’t mind.  I’m wondering how long this trend will last.  It’s an adorable three-year-old-ism that I will miss when he grows out of it.

Does anyone know how to get permanent marker out of a freakin’ expensive Pottery Barn quilt?

Okay, I did buy it on sale, but it doesn’t make me any less upset about it.  The toot decided to color with some forgotten-about markers instead of nap the other day.  To his credit, he was coloring on his wipe-off alphabet cards, but happened to hit the bed SEVERAL times (about a 2-foot area) with the red one.  UGH!

I tried OxyClean, Spray & Wash Stain Stick, hairspray, Thoro, and… lots of muttering under my breath.  Nothing has worked.  I haven’t dried it in the dryer yet.  I took it to the dry cleaners yesterday to see what they could do.

He also got it on his favorite fire truck shirt.  So sad!

On a happy note, I took my car to Bischoff’s — a car wash and detail place in Bountiful, Utah — this morning.  They not only cleaned my car inside and out (not that it needed it!!!), but were also able to buff out the hideous scratches I obtained a while back when I had a close encounter with a concrete pole.  Yay!!  The scratches are still there, of course, but they aren’t white anymore, and if you aren’t looking for them, you would never notice. 

It cost $20 for a “spot buff & wax.”  That is a serious amount of happiness (not to mention release of guilt) for $20. 

I also ran into my old friend Michelle Schmidt there.  Not that she’s old — just that I’ve known her for a long time.  She is absolutely amazing.  It was SO good to see her.  Her husband is pianist Jon Schmidt.  They lived in my parents’ neighborhood during my teenage-through-early-twenties years.  Michelle and Jon both are tremendous examples to me.  I’m so glad I got the opportunity to tell Michelle today how much I appreciate her influence on my younger self.

On a totally other random note, I think I’m going to get the toot a subscription to “Ladybug,” the 3-6 year old magazine from Cricket.  He is SO on the verge of reading!  He loves to identify letters and he’s even started guessing what words are, based on their first (or last) letter.  It’s adorable.

The Children’s Place is having a Spring Sale on Amazon.com.  Check it out!

The first of my spring bulbs peeked through the soil today!  I am so excited!  Spring is finally here and it looks like we’ll even have warm weather this weekend (in the 70s!).

I took the toot to the dentist yesterday — he was great!  They gave him a Lightning McQueen toothbrush… oh my gosh.  I don’t think I’ve seen such a big smile in a while.  A big, clean smile.